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  1. Last week my lovely sister invited to share three positive things each day for five days on facebook. This was quite easy for me. I describe myself as a realist, but actually I’m an optimist with a sprinkling of cynicism.

    Even on very ordinary (and if I’m honest) quite dull days it was good to focus on the positive things that happened. When we focus on what’s good, we see more of what’s good, and our world becomes a better place. I was even planning to make good things happen so I had something to post about!

    It made me wonder, in our very busy, fast-paced lives where instant gratification is king, how often do we stop. To pause. To reflect?

    By taking time to reflect we actively think about what has made us happy/sad that day. What we achieved and what we didn’t. What we did well, and where we let ourselves down.

    From this reflection, should come some sort of conclusion (or even enlightenment), and from that we can plan to get more of what we want and less of what we don’t; to achieve more success and less failure; to do more of what makes us happy and less of what doesn’t. In other words, to grow and develop.

    learning cycle

    Doesn’t this sound a lot like the learning cycle?

    We have slowly slipped into a habit of act-react, almost completely missing out the reflection and conceptualisation phases of learning. If we don’t take time to reflect and think, how will we ever learn from the lessons that life teaches us? How will we ever get off of the hamster wheel that many people find themselves in?

    Reflecting on three positive things is such a great and simple habit to get into, I’m continuing to do it…although not on facebook, and I think that you should too.

  2. Regular readers of my blog will know that one of the three things I do with my life is Zumba. (The other two being work and look after my family!).

    Last week our Zumba classes were taken by Emma. Emma is 17 years old, quite quiet by nature, and not really one to put herself out there. She is of course, very good at Zumba. Our usual teacher is in her late 20s, extroverted and full of confidence (and of course, very good at Zumba).

    Substituting one with the other is never going to seamless. Does this sound familiar?

    Teams get used to one particular leader. They get into a comfort zone, know what’s expected, and understand the leaders style. But then that leader gets promoted, leaves or moves to another team. The team is left a little disoriented and not sure what to expect.

    The NEW leader has been selected because they are technically competent, but that is where the similarity with the ‘old’ leader ends. It can be incredibly difficult for a new leader to come into an established team, but I was so impressed with the way that Emma stepped up to the challenge:

    • Firstly, she admitted that she may not be as slick as Ellen – she is less experienced afterall and Ellen has built the class (team) around HER preferences
    • She asked us to follow HER moves, not do the ones that Ellen does as she may do some things differently (recognising differences and establishing her authority)
    • She ‘borrowed’ a bit of Ellen…whooping and cheering (sometimes) even though it isn’t her natural style, to make things seem more familiar to us (known as modelling in the L&D world)
    • She asked for help by getting two demonstrators on stage (using the support available)
    • She thanked us for our efforts (recognition)


    And all these things, from someone who isn’t even legally an adult yet, made the 50+ people in the room want to help her to succeed. She was fab :-)

    If you are a new leader, remember that you need to get the balance right between demonstrating your authority and asking for the support of others. Show you are human, lead in your own way but learn from other leaders, and be realistic about how long it will take you to fill the shoes of the outgoing, more experienced leader. Have the confidence to step up. If you don’t feel it, ‘borrow it’. Most people will want you to succeed.

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